I love hearing how my clients are progressing with their relationship with their money especially as I help them to succeed financially and if they don’t they can claim on my money back guarantee.
My clients often feel vulnerable and exposed as it takes courage to admit help is needed to be able to become financially successful whether personally or in business. Who wants to admit they aren’t making enough money or know how to get money to work for them!
Yes, I can educate clients on financial matters and help clients increase their income but often it isn’t about the money, but more about the relationship they have with themselves.
Default to the negative
We often spend time complaining about money, whether it is because we don’t have enough, prices have increased again, or the ATM isn’t working, or worse still the bank’s refused our payment, even though there is money in the account. Whatever it is, we spend more time grumbling than actually accepting money and the benefits it can bring.
Why do we spend so much time complaining? May be it is because our brains are naturally programmed to default to the negative. What a scary thought, we naturally have to be negative rather than see the bright side and be positive. But have you ever noticed how much more positive you are when the sun is shining and the weather dry and warm. It makes such a difference.
I digress, I was writing about the fact that financial success isn’t necessarily about money but rather about the relationship you have with you.
I am due to give some talks in the New Year about the relationship with money. My own experience has shown me when I listened to my thoughts (which as I have already said, naturally defaults to the negative) I didn’t do very well financially.
Take control of your thoughts
It made me realize that unless I controlled my thoughts and stopped running my negative money beliefs, I would continue to struggle to be financially successful. Our brains work like a computer, when new software is loaded it has a pathway to follow each time, our brains run on pathways, unless the pathway is changed or deleted we continue to think and behave in the same way.
We take on the software from the moment we are born, perhaps even before as we listen, see and feel to gain our experience of life. We rely on our parents whilst we are growing up to guide and support us in the way we think and behave. We therefore take on their beliefs around money.
Beliefs can be changed
Just like computer programmes, we can delete or change the pathway. You can start straight away you are now aware you need to be conscious of what your thoughts are about money being aware allows you to start changing your beliefs, look for ways to disprove what you believe.